A narcissistic relationship is defined as one in which Person A expects Person B to cater to their needs, do what they ask, pay attention to them, live up to their expectations, and ask for nothing in return.
I found this online, and it apparently comes from the book The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment. I’d just really like to elaborate on the idea that due to the way we treat young people, the parent-child relationship is typically narcissistic, centered around one of the individuals in a relationship, rather than cooperative, which is how relationships should be.
Obviously there’s a lot to say about parents who are the self-centered ones in the relationship, so I’ll try not to dwell on this one too much, but it’s often the most important one concerning youth rights. Children can find ways to gain power and wield it over their parents to control them, and this is just as bad for society as abusive parents.
Parents are given a lot of power over a child for what is often mistaken as “protecting their child’s wishes.” If it really were about that, then we would have given children that power. You might say, “Hold on, children are far too immature to wield that or any kind of power! That’s why it’s important for parents to posses it, they know how to use it properly and can truly understand what is best for the child.” This is a terrible way to think. If children are too immature to be autonomous, we should be teaching them to be so, not holding them back in order to teach some strange lesson about maturity that takes until age 18. Thus, parents have too much power as is, while retarding development in their children.
And with great power can come such little incentive for responsibility. Continue Reading »